It's been a minute....
The ebb and flow of a school year is an ocean of happenings. Once in a blue moon the tide goes out and it's a quiet phase. More frequently we operate with tidal surges amidst the regular sea level of activity. After the literal flooding of our neighbors, it's been one of those lifeboat phases and everyone has been "crazy busy".
I always assumed the base word of "business" was busy. Turns out it's not (real definition and etymology here.) It certainly could be, though. Busy-ness comes up in so many conversations throughout the week, both professionally and personally. Although everyone seems to suffer from busy-ness, we certainly do seem to embrace that crazy more than we try to fight it. What does "busy" do to you? And what does it do to kids?
Research comes down on both sides of the aisle. Over the past decade we've heard about "over-scheduling" and how kids are being ruined by too many activities. I read a recent study though, that touted the benefits of a tight schedule for kids, citing that the more a child was involved in, the more time management skills they had to learn.
When I was in college I was an education major as well as a music major. While I didn't complete my music degree it was a true passion and I was in a multitude of ensembles and shows. When it was opera or musical season we had rehearsal every night and weekend, and everything seemed to fall into place for me. When the shows were over and I had more time things felt like a struggle.
The truth of the matter is that it depends on you and your child. Are you both happy? Are you getting everything done? Then your schedule is pretty much none of anyone else's concern! Do a lot of folks overdo it for the wrong reason? Probably. You know when you're over-scheduled. The stress of going places makes you crabby, relationships are strained and things just feel off.
If that's the case, make changes. Walk away from the choice things and focus on what makes you and your family happy.
If you love being busy then claim it!
Somewhere along the line we stopped admitting that we are happy. When folks ask how we are, what do we hear most often? "Oh good, just busy." Let's stop that! Find the balance that works for you and your family and make it happen.
One of my favorite quotes is, "The days are long but the years are short." I can't tell you how true this is. One thing our busy-ness definitely does is that it makes time fly. When my daughter was born I remember someone telling me that I would blink and she would be 5. At the time she wasn't sleeping through the night and I was totally ok imagining a blissful night of sleep as a 5 year old slumbered peacefully until late morning. Fast forward and she'll be 20 in just a few weeks.
Find your groove. Love as many moments as you can so when someone asks how things are, you can honestly say, "Just awesome."